Reflection on life: Alone Lonely

People are very weird. When we live in a crowded city, where we hardly have a minute to ourselves, we suffer from loneliness. This is a case of not alone but lonely.

There are some people who live way out in the countryside who are alone most of the times. They live a happy and fulfilling life. This is the case of alone but not lonely. A life at peace with themselves, at peace with nature, at peace with the world at large, is a fulfilling life.

Those who are alone and lonely are the worst sufferers. Some are in this situation as a punishment. That is why locking anyone up in a solitary cell, and cut off all human contacts is the most cruel punishment. Imagine hours after hours of facing the wall. Imagine hours and hours of facing yourself. That is a horrible thought.

Most of us are not in that situation. Most of us have too much contact, and we do not have a moment alone. Even when we are at home, we are surfing the Internet. We do not have physical contact through Internet. However, playing online games, participating in chat, participating in forums and participating in social networking are ways of contacting each other. It is very rare to have a moment alone.

Our friends are a phone-call away. The voices from the street penetrate into our residences. We hardly know what it is like to be alone.

In the midst of the crowd, many people are lonely. It sounds strange that people are so lonely despite meeting hundreds and hundreds of people everyday.

I am not an expert in diagnosing the peculiar situation. I can only say that all of us need time for ourselves. We need time to know ourselves better, and to accept ourselves fully. There are times when we feel dirty, feel frustrated at our unworthy thoughts and deeds. We need time to talk ourselves over it. We need time to forgive ourselves over our mistakes.

If we do not find time for ourselves, we will find that all relationships fail in a certain way. A low esteem is always a recipe for disastrous relationship.

Positive thinking cannot take place if we do not spend time with ourselves. Positive thinking is a matter of talking to ourselves repeatedly, and changing our negativity mindset.

What do you think? How can we cope with the feelings of loneliness when we are hardly alone?