How to handle a break up

10You cannot tolerate the bad relationship anymore.


You want out. You want freedom from the quarrels, the constant fight and accusation.

You have decided for a break up.

How to handle a break up?

You do not want any more emotionally draining session with your partner. You want to know how to handle a break up with the least pain.

As tempting as it seems, sending a text message is not the best answer to the question of how to handle a break up.

Let us see what are the better answers to how to handle a break up.

How to handle a break up: reasons for breaking up

You need to analyze the relationship. You need to find out what exactly gone wrong, when it started to deteriorate.

You need to find the real reason for the desire to get out of this relationship.

When you have a clear and accurate idea of what went wrong, and you are convinced that break up is the best solution, you can make the process easier.

How to handle a break up: Time to meet

You can arrange a time to meet in a neutral location. You must handle the break up with a face to face meeting.

Sending email and calling her is not the way to handle the break up.

How to handle the break up: Get over your fear

You may fear breaking the news to her when you meet with her.

You know that you are an emotional coward at times. However, you must get over your fear and handle the break up.

It is better to list down the reasons and rehearse your speech.

Try to control yourself. You can expect more insulting remarks from her. You can expect her to push all the blame on you.

How to handle the break up: Positive approach

Even if she pushes all the blame on you, you can try to end the relationship positively.

There is no need to talk about the old hurt. You need not bring up everything she does wrong. Be nice to her and treat her with respect.

Be compassionate, since you are prepared and she is not. Her world just shatters.

How to handle a break up: Keep your opinion to yourself

You may see her again in the future. There is no need to air the dirty linens in public.

Whatever your bad opinion of her, just keep it to yourself. There is no need to tell others of her bad habits and her weaknesses.



Resource: Magic of making up

Preparing for Death and Helping the Dying by Ven Sangye Khadro

Preparing for Death and Helping the Dying by Ven Sangye Khadro is a little book talking about the Buddhist perspective of death.


This book makes us face the reality of death. It is true that all of us know that we will die one day. However, not many of us are prepared for death.

A very clear example is the fact that not all of us think about leaving a will to distribute our earthly wealth. Hardly any of us think about cremation or burial to depose of our remains.

Most of us are too attached to our earthly belongings. We do not want to die, and we are not prepared for death regardless of our age.

Preparing for Death and Helping the Dying by Ven Sangye Khadro informs us of the various stages of dying.

According to the Buddhist perspective, there are a total of eight stages of dying.

The first 4 stages of dying belong to the physical stage. The last 4 stages of dying are the spiritual stage.

The first stage of dying is the weakening of the body. The body becomes weaker and thinner. This stage corresponds to the dissolve of Earth element.

The second stage is the drying up of body’s fluid. That is the stage of dissolving Water element.

The third stage is the body’s heat dissolves. This takes place at the same time as the decline of digestive power in the body. This stage corresponds to the dissolve of Fire Element.

The last physical stage is that breathing ceases. This corresponds to the dissolve of Wind Element. When the dying reaches this stage, he satisfies the medical definition of death.

However, from the Buddhist perspective, he is not dead yet. There are another 4 stages of dying.

The fifth stage of dying occurs when the dying person experiences a white vision. The next stage sees the white vision turns into red vision.

The second last stage happens when darkness occurs. The last stage of dying turns the darkness into a bright light. Only when the dying person reaches the last stage where enlightenment occurs, then death is final.

It is hard to prove whether the dying literally goes through all the 8 stages of dying. We all have heard the story of near death, in which the dying experiences white vision or red vision.

Those who experience near death always have a deeper appreciation of life.

There are instances of people who stop breathing, and return to life later. In a sense, this shows that death does not occur when breathing stops.

Preparing for Death and Helping the Dying by Ven Sangye Khadro is not meant as a scientific discussion of dying and death.

This little book of less than 50 pages attempt to prepare us for death. It serves to demystify death. It serves to detach us from our deep love and desire for material goods. This little book encourages us to volunteer to the care of the dying.

From the Buddhist perspective, it is good karma to take care of the terminally ill and help the dying accepts death.

You can get a copy of this book in digital version the website of Kong Meng San Phor Kark See Monastery. You can download many other Buddhist publications for free.

Green Arowana

I wanted to buy a Green Arowana.


A Green Arowana is the cheapest of the Asian Arowana fish. The fact is that the Chinese does not like Green Arowana as much as the Red Arowana, even though they belong to the same species.

The Chinese associate the color red as the lucky color, and green as the unlucky color. There is a saying that you lose money until your face turns green. That is why Green Arowana is not associated with luck.

The Asian Arowana, including the Green Arowana, is a protected fish.

You can go to jail for importing or exporting the fish without a permit. All Asian Arowana come with a certificate and a tag.

I wanted to buy a Green Arowana because of the comparably lower price. There are more Green Arowana available in the market than the more expensive breed of the Asian Arowana, commonly known as the Dragon Fish.

However, the uncle at the fish shop told me that there is no stock for Green Arowana. It seemed that the Chinese in mainland China are snapping up the world stock of Green Arowana.

I was quite surprised to hear that. The uncle at the fish shop said that that was the only time he faced the shortage of Green Arowana. He had been in the business of selling Dragon Fish for 30 years.

My initial plan was to get a Green Arowana, and to take care of the fish for a few years. If the fish died, I would not feel such a loss. I would have gained experience in taking care of such a majestic fish, before I bought the more expensive dragon fish.

Since there was no stock for Green Arowana, I bought the second cheapest breed. I bought my little Banjar Red Arowana. The local called it as the Yellow Tailed Arowana.

Banjar Red Arowana is actually a cross breed between Red Arowana and Green Arowana. I have taken care of my little fish for half a year, and it has never given me any problem.

When I bought the fish home, it was just 6 inches in size. That was in May 2010. Now is just the end of August 2010, and my little fish has grown to a feet.

Even though Asian Arowana is a fast growing fish, it is still relatively rare for a fish to grow from 6 inches to a feet within four months.

My little Banjar Red Arowana is really very greedy. It keeps on knocking at the fish tank to ask for food. I know that the tail of my little fish will turn yellowish once it reaches adult size. I just hope that the reddish color retains.

At the moment, my little Banjar Red Arowana does not look very different from a Red-tailed Arowana. The tail is still reddish.

In a sense, I am glad that the Green Arowana was not available when I wanted to buy. Green Arowana will never have a spark of reddish color anywhere.

As for the legend of how Red Arowana brings more luck than Green Arowana, I cannot comment on that. My Banjar Red Arowana does not make me feel any luckier than before. It seems to bring more luck to my mother than me.

Solar power PLR: Earth4Energy helps you solar power your house cheap

This is a series of PLR articles on solar power and how Earth4Energy can help save cost on electricity.  I have rewritten certain paragraphs before loading here. Hope you gain as much knowledge about solar power as I did.

"Solar power PLR 1: Earth4Energy helps you solar power your house cheap

With the economic climate deteriorating rapidly, it is only a matter of time before solar energy takes the place of conventional electricity supplies.

The problem at the moment is the price for solar power for home systems are too high, which means there is not the demand. Electricity prices are continuing to rise, but wages aren’t, so how far off is solar energy from being affordable?

Well, products that produce solar energy, especially solar power for home, need to change several hands before reaching a consumer.

Each hand wants to take their share of the profit and the end result means that it is simply not financially viable to solar power for home. It has been mentioned that the current average price to for a solar power for home system is in the region of $30,000!

Bearing in mind that most households are not likely to spend anything over $1,500 on electricity every single year, it would take 20 years to recoup the cost of solar power for home system.

Of course, that is if you could afford the $30,000 outlay initially to solar power for home, which I’d say most people cant!

It looks like retailers won’t be able to produce and sell cheap solar energy products for a few years yet, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have them.

Michael Harvey is an expert in the field of cheap solar energy products. He figured out a way to solar power for home at just $200. Instead of keeping his findings to himself, Michael has decided to share all his research in the form of a step by step guide, helping you to create cheap solar energy!

His years of research mean that he can offer consumers cheap solar energy products. In fact, following his guides can mean 80%+ savings on electricity bills, for the sake of a few weekends elbow grease and a couple of hundred dollars.

The step by step guides he has created enable even the most inexperienced solar energy consumer to create wind turbines (for as little as $100!!!) and solar panels. Along side the above; Michael has also included his findings on how to store solar energy for free via batteries, which again, cost him nothing!

Whilst Michael had assumed that there was a need for such a step by step guide, he didn’t assume it was so big. His carefully detailed video tutorials and e-book have been a smash hit throughout the community, gaining him hundreds of positive tutorials since its release. Cheap solar energy couldn’t be any simpler!

Are you ready to use solar power for home and save money? Find out how you can power your house for less than $200.


Solar power PLR 2: What step-by-step guides are included with Earth4Energy?


Earth4Energy offers consumers the chance to build and source three fundamental products that are essential to create cheap solar energy. These include solar panel systems, wind power systems and energy storage systems.

The E-book and video tutorials have all been created by Michael Harvey, who boasts a number of years experience in the industry. This gives users the confidence that all the products detailed in the book are spot on!

Solar Panel Systems

The first part of the book is what it is known most for. It shows consumers exactly how to build their own solar power systems. Not only that but it offers consumers a way to produce this system for as little as $200.00.

You may be thinking that the parts will be hard to source and potentially expensive, so why so cheap? Well, the truth is, a lot of the parts for this system can be found around the home, or in a local DIY shop, so they are sometimes free, other times cheap and if not, you know they are easy to get hold of!

Once the system is fully functional, then you can just sit back and make the most out of it. This means that you will be able to power all your appliances such as your fridge, washing machine, video games console, or even television.

Of course, you could spend $30,000 on a solar power for home system, but how good will it be? Will you be able to take to it away to friends if you stay there for a week? Will you be able to take it camping? Because the Earth4Energy solar panel system is completely portable, you can do exactly that!

Wind Power and Storage Systems

The second part of the book entails the building of a wind power system. Wind power is great to store, then on cloudy days when the solar panel system is not bringing in your cheap energy, you can use the wind power.

The guide details exactly how to build a wind turbine for less than $200.00 and in some cases, for well under $100.00 (depends on how efficient you are with the materials!). Because the solar panel system isn’t ideal for cloudy days, the wind power offers a good alternative. For this reason it is advisable to build a storage system, which is detailed in the third section of the book!

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The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell

The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell is supposed to be a crime thriller. However, the development of the story shows that it is more of a political story than crime thriller.


The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell starts with a shattering crime in which 19 persons, mostly elderly ones, are killed in a remote village.

The surprising thing is that all the 19 persons come from three families. They are related through intermarriages.

However, the killer does not kill the entire village. A senile old woman and a couple are alive.

The astonishing introduction promises a good story.

When Judge Birgitta Roslin takes a personal interest in the murder, due to the fact that her mother is the adopted daughter of one of the families, the story starts to get interesting.

She discovers the Chinese link from the red ribbon that the killer takes from a Chinese restaurant in the area. This red ribbon is part of evidences in the scene crime.

The second part of the story takes on a drastically different direction.

Henning Mankell extends the connection to Africa. He portrays a frightening scenario of China sending a few hundred thousands peasants to Africa to farm the land.

While that is a bit far fetch at the moment, there is no secret that China is buying up land in Africa to secure the food supply to its massive population.

There is also no secret that China is buying up assets around the world. The fact is that nobody really knows how many assets the Chinese owns.

I find that is the most frightening part of this story. The scenario that Henning Mankell describes in this book is so frightening real.

Africa countries do have a good relationship with China. It is possible that the Africans allow massive migration of the Chinese, as long as the China government is willing to pay a price for the settlement.

The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell ends with the death of Ya Ru, the rich industrialist who orders the murder of the 19 people in a Swedish village.

Ya Ru orders the murder to avenge for the injustice faced by his ancestor a hundred years ago.

That sounds a bit far fetch for a crime thriller.

The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell differs very much from the Kurt Wallander series. In fact if you like the police procedural in Kurt Wallander series, you will be very disappointed in this book.

The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell is more politics than the books in Kurt Wallander series. It has entered into international politics.

That does not mean that The Man from Beijing by Henning Mankell is not interesting. It is in fact a very thought provoking book. You need more than the usual attention to read this book than other thrillers.

It seems that with the rising of China, and the unstoppable growth of China economy, the thriller writers are using novels to depict their viewpoints, fear, admiration and hatred of the Chinese.

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Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly

After reading Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly, I guess the best way to sum up this story is by the old method of using the moral of the story.


The moral of the lesson in Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly is that we must not make assumption.

Harry Bosch makes too many assumptions in this case which are completely wrong.

Harry Bosch suspects Detective Chu almost from the start of the story. Detective Chu proves to be a good guy. It is a wonder that Detective Chu still helps Harry Bosch.

The ex wife of Harry Bosch, Eleanor Wish, dies in this story. It is really an unnecessary death. The story will have a better ending if Eleanor Wish marries Sun Yee.

There are too many unnecessary deaths in this story. The death of Eleanor Wish really serves no purpose. Another unnecessary death is that of Harry’s partner. Even though he is a lazy detective not dedicated to the work, he does not deserve death.

There are many bodies in this story without involving the two unnecessary deaths.

The main story in Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly takes place in Hong Kong. Nine Dragons means Kowloon.  Nine Dragons is the literal translation of the Kowloon. It gives a peek into the triads in Hong Kong without literally bringing the triads in the story.

Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly is more on the daughter of Harry Bosch rather than on him. His daughter turns out to be more rebellious than average teenager. No wonder she feels guilty for causing the death of her mother.

The simple murder of a Chinese old man, the owner of Fortune Liquors, turns out to be just a plain and simple murder.

The whole angle about Chinese gang runs throughout the whole book, yet Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly is not about Chinese gangsters.

The best part of Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly is right at the end, when the truth emerges. The truth about Harry’s daughter is the best part of the story. I hope there are more stories involving this remarkable daughter of Harry.

I think the Harry and daughter team will give a good angle to the usual thriller.

Nine Dragons by Michael Connelly is a very exciting book. It is best to finish the book within a day.

Dead Heat by Caroline Carver

I admit that I am a bit bias when it comes to authors that I have never heard of.


I tend not to expect too much from new writers. This is the case when I started reading Dead Heat by Caroline Carver.

I seldom read a thriller with the setting in Australia, and definitely not in an unknown town in Australia.

Dead Heat by Caroline Carver exceeded all my expectation.

Dead Heat by Caroline Carver is a remarkably exciting thriller. The part where the Chinese gangsters chop the finger of Georgia Parish away is very frightening.

One remarkable thing in Dead Heat by Caroline Carver is the application of military strategies from Sun Tzu’s Art of War.

I just wish that Caroline Carver do not kill so many people in this book. One or two bodies in a mystery thriller is good enough. This book has far more than that. I lost count on the number of dead bodies in this book. And all the victims die in different ways.

Dead Heat by Caroline Carver is quite boring at the beginning. The story is slow in starting. However, when the plane crash occurs, the story starts to fly.

That is the time when the excitement starts, and the body counts build up.

I come to like Lee Denham very much in Dead Heat by Caroline Carver. I definitely like him more than Georgia Parish. Georgia Parish does not use her brain sometimes. Lee Denham is always cool and practical.

I find that Dead Heat by Caroline Carver is a bit overkill in that it has two major climaxes in the story. I do not like the part where Daniel, the good guy so far, turns out as the bad guy.

I certainly do not like the fact that he dies in the hand of the crocodile. While there is justice in that a life is paid for a life, since he sabotage the plane and kill Sonia, he pays for his sin by dying in the jaw of Sonia’s favorite crocodile.

Dead Heat by Caroline Carver is a great thriller. Caroline Carver has the potential to become the leading writer in this genre.

Dead Heat by Caroline Carver brings us to experience the part of Australia that is foreign to most of us. The description of the rain forest, plus the mosquitoes, the humidity, the storm and all the rest are very well done.

Losing 100 pounds is not impossible

Have the doctor advised you in the matter of losing 100 pounds? If you are in need of losing 100 pounds, that means you have a very good medical reason to do so.


It is hard to consider losing 100 pounds without medical supervision.

In fact, it is dangerous to try losing 100 pounds without medical supervision. You need to talk to your doctor about the kind of exercises that are suitable for you.

You cannot just put on the running shoes and start to run marathon for the sake of losing 100 pounds. You risk a heart attack if you try to do so.

If you intend to keep to low impact exercise, you can start walking for weight loss.

Once you have mastered the ability to walk 30 minutes without running out of breath, you can try to climb stairs or go for a longer walk.

The best is to walk 20 minutes a few times a day when you start on the weight loss program.

What are some other things you can do in order to succeed in losing 100 pounds?

Here are a few practical tips for losing 100 pounds.

Losing 100 pounds: drink water

You must learn to drink water. You must learn to drink a lot of water. You must remember to drink water before the 20 minutes walk. You must remember to drink water after the 20 minutes walk.

It does not matter whether you drink one glass of water every hour or you take a sip of water every five minutes. The most important thing is to drink a lot of water.

You have to remember that there is a difference between drinking plain water and drinking a can of soft drinks.

You should drink only plain water or water with no calories. If you think that plain water is too plain, you can add a few drops of lime in the water.

You must remember that the first thing in the morning is to drink a glass of water. If you can manage two glasses of plain water, that is even better.

Losing 100 pounds: eliminate sugar

You must eliminate sugar from your diet. That means drinking coffee without sugar. That means drinking tea without sugar.

That means no ice cream since normal ice cream contains sugar. That means no soft drinks with sugar. You can take the sugarless soft drinks.

That means all desserts with sugar is out.

Losing 100 pounds: Eat raw

You can eat raw for at least one meal in a day. You can eat salad for lunch. If you eat raw, you must not add the salad dressing.

You can add a bit of lime juice with olive oil to make the salad tastes better.

Whenever you feel hungry, you can eat fruits and vegetables. As long as you do not let yourself go hungry, you can lose 100 pounds successfully.

You can eat a Fullbar food bar for snacks so that you can feel full with less than 200 calories.

Losing 100 pounds: sleep well

You need to sleep well in order to lose weight successfully. When you sleep well, you will find that you have more energy to exercise the next day.

You will find that you do not think of sweet food during the day.

If you do not sleep well, your body wants to compensate for the lack of energy by sugar. You will start to crave for sugary products.

That is why sleep is so important a factor for losing 100 pounds.

Losing 100 pounds: Patience

You do not put on 100 pounds in just a month. It takes years of eating and sedentary lifestyle to gain an excess of a hundred pounds.

That is why you need to spread out the losing of 100 pounds across a few years. It is better to lose weight safely than to lose weight fast.

It is easier for you to think about losing two pounds per month than to think of losing 100 pounds. You will find that losing 100 pounds get easier as your body accepts your attempt to lose weight.